How do I tell my kids without scaring them?

The fact that you're thinking this carefully about their hearts already says a lot about the kind of father you are.

Families in our community often share a few threads that helped: keeping explanations short, honest and repeatable ('daddy is getting good help, and some days it makes him tired'); answering exactly the question that was asked and no more — children usually ask for what they are ready to hear; and giving each child a small, real way to help (choosing tonight's movie, watering the plants) so they feel included rather than shut out. It's okay to say 'I don't know yet' — children handle honest uncertainty better than silence.

There are also people who specialise in talking with children about a parent's hard season — support services near you can point you to what's available.

This answer is general lifestyle information from JOJU CARE, reviewed by our advisors. It does not replace professional consultation — please talk with a professional you trust about anything important.